Love can’t work miracles despite the fact that it does. It is impossible to change the characteristics that make up our loved one. Most likely, any attempts to change the character traits of our beloved will lead to the end of the relationship. Even if we think we can eradicate their negative traits, we need to be aware that we may have to face another person. Not the one you fell in love. We have created a list of characteristics that you must accept or compromise in order to change the character of your partner.
Communication with family
Sometimes, we marry more than just single women. Your feelings towards your next of kin are often very strong and will not change no matter what we do to make them communicate less or spend more time together.
If you are unable to join this tight-knit family, any efforts to get a partner to agree to be with you and make them spend more time with their loved ones will fail. It is also important that you allow your partner to not attend family gatherings as often as you do. Family is important but not at the cost of loving relationships.
Introvert or Extrovert
However, opposites can attract but only to a certain extent. You will one day want your privacy and loving silence to support your desire for several nights in a row outside your home. It is impossible to change someone’s temperament. You can’t change a person’s temperament. In such situations, you will need to be there for each other.
In order to maintain internal balance, our interests, which have no connection with professional implementation, are important. If we lose control of our lives, we feel less fulfilled and in control. It is not a good idea to assume that your partner will suddenly stop reading, dancing in the ballroom, or skiing at the beginning of a relationship.
How to Manage Aggression
Do not expect to be able to change the heart of someone you are trying to create a loving relationship with if they have insignificant issues that can easily be solved peacefully. This is a serious problem that should be addressed from the beginning. Aggression and restraint will only get worse as time goes by. Passive aggression is a form manipulation. You are made to feel insane by the person who pretends they didn’t do anything, even though there wasn’t any physical violence or other obvious offenses.
Sometimes, the issue of religious divergence is only discovered after children are born. Even if the partners did not discuss their religious beliefs before they had children, it is possible that they want the children to be raised in a tradition of spirituality close to their families. It is possible that the second partner holds other religious beliefs, and turns out to be an atheist, or agnostic. This will likely lead to a serious discussion.
You need to be alone
While you want to spend every moment together, a loved one needs his or her own space. If your partner is feeling lonely, it could be taken as rejection and a painful response. The time we spend apart allows us to keep the novelty of our feelings and the individuality of each other, which in the end only strengthens the relationship.
One partner may feel that their relationships are all they are doing when they are together constantly. This can lead to internal resistance from a partner who requires more time to reflect on new experiences and to fulfill changing needs and desires.
Planning is Essential
While you need to plan every step carefully, your partner prefers spontaneity. This difference can be beneficial at first: One side allows the other to live in present moment and enjoy the beauty of it, while the other gives assurance for the future and comfort in knowing that much has been planned.
These aren’t the opposites of the views that can cause a relationship to end. It all depends on how severe the differences are. Conflicts will result if you try to convince each other what weekend should look like and how the family budget should be planned. These differences are due to the uniqueness of each person’s psyche. You will never change their way of gaining psychological safety or comfort.